grammar is a tool to help facilitate communication. it is not the be all end all of language and communication, nor is it an indicator of intelligence, knowledge, or mental capability. grammar elitism is a waste of time.
“The portrayals of disabled people that are considered the best, those that win Oscars for able-bodied actors, are often described as being ‘sympathetic’ to disabled people. This supposes both that sympathy is what disabled people are seeking from the able-bodied and that it is the best we can hope to get from a filmed depiction of our lives. We do not want sympathy. We want equality.”
This is also true for cis actors in trans drag (*cough* jared leto *cough*).
Oh—you wouldn’t date a girl who’s ever been a stripper?
Oh—you wouldn’t date a girl who’s ever done porn?
You’re the reason we exist.
As they say in the industry, “People jack off with the left hand and point with the right.””